Traveling Dog Lady: How do you take a safe bathroom break when traveling solo with dogs?

One thing people always ask about are bathroom breaks for the human, and what is proper protocol. The best thing, obviously, is to have a human traveling companion, and each human takes turns using the restroom while the other one stays with the dog(s). But what about the solo traveler (such as me, before I met my current husband)?? It's tricky. And times have changed over the last decade or so, making it even more tricky for the solo dog loving traveler. Not to mention, I've always had more than one dog, so traveling alone with TWO or THREE dogs is quite challenging! But I've done it, and if I can do it anyone can.

The first thing I always suggest is find a pet-friendly place that has a bathroom. One of my go-to solutions is Petco or PetSmart. You have to take an exit off the highway, and likely drive a few miles to find the nearest store, but once you do they have a restroom and you can bring your dog into the store AND the restroom without even having to ask. This is the ultimate best solution I have come up with.

Charlie in the Subaru

The next best idea is a rest area with exterior restrooms that don't necessarily have any signage about dogs. In other words, they're sort of "silent" on the topic of whether or not your dog is welcome. These are kind of hard to find, but I do remember, when I used to come to the Cape to check on my house in the winter, I could always find a rest area that had these exterior restrooms.

Park in the shade!

Are you pumping gas, mama?

Third, park in a shaded area (such as under a covered section of a gas station & convenience store where the gas pumps are). Pump some gas first (purchasing something always helps, and you'll be on camera, most likely). Leave your windows open about 3 inches -- just enough to get air in the vehicle, but not enough to fit a person's hand. If you have a sun roof or moon roof, open that up a little too. DON'T leave your car running with the a/c on! Dash quickly into the restroom inside the convenience store, use the restroom, wash your hands, and come back to the car. Do this as quickly as you can and do not dawdle or buy anything in the store. I did this for many years, but nowadays people are apt to try to break your windows, steal your pet, or report you to the police. So, it might be a good idea to have a sign that says "Human in bathroom, they'll be right back, we are safe and loved!" Or something like that.

Cooper got his learner's permit

Cooper!

As for pet-friendly hotels, oh boy do I have some stories!! As far as tips go, be assertive, especially if you're a female traveling alone with one or more large dog(s). The hotel may be pet friendly, but they will try to put you in the WORST room. I know, because it has happened to me more than once. Explain that your dog is clean, well-behaved, housebroken, doesn't chew, etc. and that you are alone and need to be safe. I have horror stories of filthy rooms crawling with flies and roaches, broken toilets (one of the main reasons I would stay overnight rather than continuing to my destination!), and "crack house" type hotels teeming with unsavory humans. I've been put in the worst, filthiest rooms, on the ground level of a hotel, simply because I had a large dog. Be sure you stand up for yourself and don't be afraid to take your business elsewhere if you have to!

Charlie and Hobie at my old house on Cape Cod

Cooper and Charlie on a bed

Hobie on a couch

Hector and Hobie on a bed

I've traveled with my small dog, Petey, several times during the pandemic. We went camping, and also stayed at hotels. He's always welcome. They definitely treat smaller dogs differently than big ones, and they definitely treat couples better than single female travelers. How unfortunate.